Any divorce lawyer will tell you that divorce isn’t easy. When tempers flair, it often results in arguments and hurtful words. Quite obviously, this just makes things worse instead of better. There are several things that you should try to avoid saying to your soon-to-be-ex spouse, throughout the proceedings. The more respectful and dignified you are, the better off you’ll be. This is especially true if there are children involved.
1. “You can have everything.”
Giving in initially may make things easier for the moment, but will cause a lot of pain in the long run. Make sure you get your fair share, even if it is tempting to let it all go. Settling for less may not seem like such a good decision after all is said and done.
2. “I’m going to find a new place to live.”
A common mistake made is rushing to move out and start a new life. Though getting away from the situation may relieve a lot of stress, it could also give your spouse an edge during property division. Hold off on finding a new place until all of your property has been divided.
3. “I’m going to kill you!”
In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to lose your temper and threaten your spouse. It’s never okay to do, especially in a situation that’s so financially driven. Threatening your spouse during divorce can get you into a legal bind and potentially ruin your case.
“No matter how angry you are, violence is never the answer. And threatening violence is no joke either. It could hurt your case, and you could end up in other legal trouble as well,” according to DadsDivorce.com.
4. “The kids are better off with me.”
If you have children, their welfare should be a primary concern throughout the divorce. Remember that issues involving custody should be about the children winning, not you or your spouse. Don’t make the mistake of hurting your children while trying to get at your spouse.
5. “I have a better love life now.”
Bragging about your new girlfriend/boyfriend might be tempting to do, but it only makes you look bad. Tensions are already running high at times like this, so why do you want to make things worse for both parties?
If it’s something that would upset you to hear, chances are it’s going to upset your significant other and will make the divorce process more complicated.
Do You Need Legal Help for Your Divorce?
As experienced divorce lawyers, we’ve seen and heard it all, and we want to help spouses that are going through divorce learn from the common mistakes of others in the same situation. Take our advice: the kinder and more considerate you are, the more likely it is that your spouse will return the favour. Anger only makes a tough situation more difficult.
If you’re looking for support and expert legal representation during this difficult time, our team at Galbraith Family Law can help sort things out, and get you results. Contact us today for a consultation.