Are you thinking about getting a divorce, but you just can’t bring yourself to go through with it?
Even though you and your spouse are incredibly unhappy with your marriage, you keep making arguments that hold you back from divorce. The longer you keep making these claims as to why you shouldn’t get divorced, the unhappier you’ll be. Read on to learn about common hurdles to divorce and how to overcome them.
“No One in My Family Has Ever Been Divorced”
Being the first person in your family to graduate university is an accomplishment. If you’re the first person in your family to get divorced, that’s a dubious distinction.
Many people see divorce as bringing shame and scandal to a family, and they don’t want to be the ones to do it. However, just because no one in your family has been divorced doesn’t mean they’ve all had happy marriages. Maybe many of your family members are miserable. You don’t have to be any longer, though.
“What Will Our Friends Think?”
Another reason people hold off from divorce is because they’re concerned with what their friends will say. They’re worried their friends will think less of them if their marriage breaks up.
Don’t let other people dictate your life decisions. Peer pressure shouldn’t prevent you from leaving an unhappy marriage. Yes, some of your friends might be shocked. And you might lose some friends who either side with your ex or don’t like the idea of divorce. You have to ask yourself, how good of a friend was that person? What you’ll most likely discover are many people who understand, especially those who have gone through marital problems of their own.
“We Can’t Divorce Because of the Kids”
Isn’t it better for children to be in a home with two parents, even if they’re unhappy? The answer to that question is “no.”
Your kids learn from you. They see you fighting, and they think that’s the way all couples function. While it’s unrealistic to expect that you’ll never argue in front of your children (or never argue at all), it’s unhealthy for you to do it all the time. If you can handle the divorce in a mature manner, your kids will be better off in the long run.
Remeber. This is YOUR Life
It’s easy for us to say this, but try to let go of what other people think.
Releasing yourself from external pressure is the only way you can fix your damaged marriage, or arrive at the decision it’s time to move on.
Don’t give anyone else a proxy. Nobody else’s vote counts. This is your life and your relationship. Whatever decision you come to, the rest of the world will find a way to deal with it.
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